good-time guy or alcoholic?

Has your guy's drinking too far and tipped over from a social lubricant to something he can't live without? Does he:

1.Find he can't face an increasing number of situations, such as parties, uni presentations or work meetings without calming his nerves with a drink first?

2.Sneak drinks at home or seem unable to go without a drink at lunch?

3.Intend to have just one relaxing glass of wine or beer most nights with dinner, only to drink the whole bottle or six-pack of Heineken?

4.Often drink to the point where his personality changes or he can't remember what he did?

5.Ever have a alcohol to calm a panic attack or shakes?

6.Appear anxious, out of control or aggressive if he runs out of alcohol at home?

7.Often call in sick to work because he's severely hung over that he need to stay in bed?

8.Keep mints or toothbrush and toothpaste at work or in his car to mask the smell of alcohol?

9.Wipe himself out binge drinking every time you socialise?

10.Sometime resolve to give up drinking or drink way less, but can only go without a drop for a couple of days?

If you answered "YES" to two of these questions, it's highly likely your boyfriend has a dependency on alcohol. Seek professional advice and support from a drug and alcohol counsellor.


Why it's cool to be warm..

If you want to be happier, turn up your inner central heating. That's because it's the warm and affectionate among us who truly attract fulfilling opportunities.
You can buy sex appeal. you can learn charm. But genuine warmth is worth much more - after all, it's all about having a relaxed attitude and not taking yourself too seriously. warm women give the impression that what you see is what you get(WYSIWYG), that you are seeing the 'real' them.
Warm women don't pretend to be something they're not. Which is why so few women under 30 exude true warmth. In our 20s, we're too self-absorbed and too busy promoting an image the world will approve of.
But as we grow older, so does our ability to radiate warmth. Warmth is one truly alluring quality that is more easily accessed with each successive birthday. And yes, we should be cultivating this asset. Why? In tough times like these - with an economic recession, depressing job cuts and gloomy news headlines - real warmth carries us through.
In difficult times, warmth is wonderful shortcut - it helps you engage with people and forge firm relationships quickly when you're under pressure. Good relationships are the foundation of business success and personal happiness. People with natural warmth should realise what a wonderful gift it is - and how silly it would be not to let it show.
Warmth will also open doors as it is the gateway to a bulging contacts list. For women especially, our natural warmth is a great ally in more productive networking.
There are three body-language signals that convey warmth - smiling, nodding and being tactile - which are magnified in warm people. Smiling is an unequivocal sign of approval. Nodding is more interesting: Even if you are verbally disagreeing with someone, they'll feel that you approve of them and feel warmer towards you - as long as you're nodding at the same time.
If you want to be memorable, let your warmth flow through. You never know whether the next person you heat up will be the one to introduce you to that new job, friend or opportunity.


Benefits of Traffic Exchange..

There are many ways to generate traffics to your site. BUT which is the most effective and satisfied you? I've been member to many social media websites such as MyBlogLog, BlogCatalog, Facebook and even Twitter. So far BlogCatalog give me more visitors above of all.

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For each site you visit using our system you'll receive one visitor back to your own Web site or referral link!

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Members are limited to 2 accounts per person. If you create more than 2 accounts, all your accounts will be terminated.

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To start earning hits you must signup, log in to your members account, and click on the "Start Surfing" menu option.

5.And what about your referral program?
We have 5-tier referral program (10%, 5%, 3%, 2%, 1%). It means that you'll receive 10%
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Are You a reckless driver?

And don't know it yet? Steer clear of these common errors and you'll help make our roads safer.
Does this sound familiar - you're in your car, cruising down the road when a distracted driver almost knocks into you. Imagine your rage. Now, what if the situation were reversed and you were the reckless one?
One the worst things about driving is losing control, especially when you're in close proximity with a reckless driver. You could be a safest driver around, but if put in this situation, things could get bad. This is why it is important to practise defensive driving.
We often unwittingly put ourselves in dangerous driving situations. Not only are we harming ourselves, we're also endangering others. And bad habits that may seem insignificantly could potentially be the most dangerous.
So, are you are reckless driver? Here are some bad habits you need to avoid..
  • Staying too close to the car in front
  • Poor overtaking
  • Picking up a call
  • Not signaling
  • Over-confidence
  • Tailgating
  • Hogging the middle and outside lane, holding up others drivers
  • Not sticking to speed limits, going either too slow or too fast
  • Using the wrong lane at roundabouts
  • Changing lanes constantly, cutting into another driver's lane
  • Cutting corners
  • Leaving the headlight beam ON.


Money Stretchers

When paying off your debts, work with whatever amount you have right now and make it stretch as far as possible...
  • Make a list of all outstanding bills.
  • Note due dates and grace periods.
  • Pay your bills only at the end of their grace periods A computer won't care that you paid on the last possible day.
  • Pay only the minimum due, but pay something on all of your bills.
  • Don't pay all of one bill and only some of the others.
  • Don't charge anything on a due-in-30-days basis. Try to arrange credit over a longer period.
  • If it looks like your money problems will last a while, send a note to the people you owe when you make part-payment. Keep it brief and to the point; "I'm experiencing problems that should be resolved soon. Here is part-payment. I will pay the full amount as soon as I can.


Drink Damage Control

Drinking until you're tipsy or drunk is not good for your brain or body, so help your guy keep his drinking under control (and cut back on your alcohol intake too). To avoid overdoing it when you're out socilising, slash the amount you both drink by:

AVOIDING SALTY FOODS: As well as being high in fat, they create thirst, which you will then tend to quench with more alcohol.

ORDERING HALF 'N HALF: E.g. half champagne/half orange juice, a spritzer (wine mixed with the tonic water) or a "spacer" - a soft drink or iced water after every glass of beer or wine.

AVOIDING SPIRITS AND COCKTAILS: Their alcohol content is higher, particularly if combined with fizzy mixers which send them into the bloodstream more rapidly.

THINKING SMALL: Ask for the barman to pour no more than a 100ml glass of wine or a half nip of spirits.

EATING FIRST: By making sure you're had a good meal or at the very least, a breadroll before you drink, you will metabolise alcohol a little more slowly and are less likely to get tipsy, throw caution to the wind and get drunk.
STEERING CLEAR OF HAPPY HOUR: If the drinks cheaper you're likely to have more.

EMPTYING YOUR GLASS: Don't allow anyone to top up your glass before you finish it or you'll quickly lose track.


Need specific self, career or relationship advice?

Here are some tips from the experts.

Self: Reaching our potential is something we should all strive towards - and, in reality, it's a lifelong project. Aim high and remember that this can be measured in variety of ways, including health, happiness, financial security, purpose and quality relationships. We all need to look after ourselves, but we don't want to be selfish. Similarly we want to love and care for others, but not at the expense of our own health and happiness. Real contentment can be achieved by balancing the two.

Career: Be realistic; as there may not be as many opportunities available at the moment. rather than abandon all your goals , focus on you career values. Identify what's important to you: Money? Helping people? Flexibility? Feeling challenged? Then look at your current circumstances to find ways of working towards these mini-targets. If assisting people is important, investigate a mentoring programmed; if you you want to feel more challenged in your job, ask for more complex work. Being proactive pays off!

Relationships: The most successful people in life will have better-quality relationships and more of them. They actively focus on developing, fostering and maintaining those relationships in their life that are important. They do this by do this: focusing more on the positives in others; being clear about the nature and purpose of each relationship; frequently praising others; and communicating more effectively. So brush up on these skills and you'll reap the rewards.


The life re-edit

Act III of your life not going to plan? It's time to review your goals and rewrite your life direction.

You've spent ages working towards something, only now, you're beginning to question whether it's what you really want. Sound familiar? Whether it's relationship, career or self-related, there inevitably will come times when we suddenly pause, analyze the situation at hand and realise something's not quite right. Sometimes, we can even pinpoint what's caused the revelation (such as a job loss or unexpected relationship break-up): other times, it's not so clear. Either way, we shouldn't have to feel lost in our own feelings. There are ways to regain control and live the life that makes you happy.

1."What am I doing with my life"
It's normal to contemplate your direction in life - and happiness levels. Although most people strive for contentment and want to live a good and meaningful life, very few actually know what this would be like. As a result, many people, at some point feel lost and question what they're are doing and where they're going. There's much to be gained from these journeys of self-discovery. Questioning can be a very constructive process; you focus on the positives and best possible outcomes.

Contemplation usually arises following an unexpected change of plans - something we should learn to embrace. Change will happen whether we like it or not. Look for the good in every opportunity that present itself - you may even find that this 'scary' change is exactly what you need to move closer towards your goals.

2.Put your values first
In order to ponder of fearing the worst, you need to pay attention to your true values. Identify what's meaningful to you in life and these values will become a reference point. Values are 'compass point', rather than definite goals, and will give you an idea of what of what direction you should go in, regardless of what other circumstances are happening in your life. They'll also protect you from getting off-track and assuming someone else values as your own. For example , career may be important to your parents, but not so much to you, so learn to distinguish the difference.

It's hard to get anywhere in life if you're not clear about what you're trying to achieve. That said, you need to balance your optimism with reality. What we know about the happiest and most successful people is that they aim high and dream big, but they also face the cold, hard realities of the day - in a constructive way.

So, instead of lingering on a disappointment or failure, choose to view it as a tiny setback. Sure, it may take a little longer to get where you want to be, but trust that you'll get there because you want to.

3.Gear up your goals
Short-term versus long-term goals - which is better? They're both important! We need long-term goals so we have something to aim towards, but we also need to break these down into smaller, more achievable chunks. This way, we can ensure we're on the right road and gain important feedback and reinforcement a long the way.

Confidence usually comes from achieving things, so set yourself realistic goals, develop a plan to reach those targets, and do what you need to in a structured way. A lot of people expect too much too soon - they want it all and blame themselves if they find they can't achieve that. So focusing on only a few values at any one time is important.

Above all, don't put unnecessary pressure on yourself. As long as you feel satisfied your life is moving in a positive direction, then you're on the path to some serious happiness.


It's all in your genes!

Scientists have found that your DNA influences more than just your physical make-up!

1.Sweet tooth.
Why is it that some of us fine it harder to resist sweet foods than others? There's an explanation: the gene in our brain which tells us that we've had enough to eat is less sensitive to glucose in certain folks, states a study by the University of Toronto. These people often have a higher BMI.

Susceptibility to tress doesn't run in families, but how you react to it does. Unchecked level of stress can activate genes that increase inflammation in those with heart disease and that in part explains why certain diseases run in the family.

If you often feel sad, you may have a short version of the 5-HTTLPR gene which indicates that you're the non-confrontational type. Since feeling blue is linked with heart disease and impaired immunity, learn to cope by asking yourself: Is my respone appropriate? Can my situation be improved? Or is taking action worth it?


Body Know-it-all Tips!

R & R

Rehydrate and replenish is what it's mean! During your workout, your body's fluid are lost through perspiration, so it's crucial to replace them. Revive is an excellent after-workout isotonic drink as it is designed to improve metabolism and rehydrate your body with its concoction of vitamins B3, B6, and B12 and electrolytes. With a hint of zesty orange and grapefruit, it's a refreshing treat especially when chilled!

Airplane gas bomb!
Believe it or not, there's such a thing called "high-altitude flatus expulsion" according to gastroenterologists at Yale University. There's less air pressure in higher altitudes so the gas trapped inside you expands. A simple Rx: Avoid indulging in rich food or having too much carbonated drinks just before the flight or while you're airborne.

Help, my eyelids are Twitching!
According to old wives' tales it's a sign that someone is missing you. But truth is you need some shut-eye! Eyelid spasms is a sign that you're WAY too tired. A state of sheer exhaustion and stress can make your facial nerves fire spontaneously for no reason. If you're already in the middle of an episode, you need to hit the sack and cut back on caffeine which can worsen the spasms!


Is your relationship making you sick?

A new research shows treading water in a so-so relationship can actually be bad for your health, raising stress levels and blood pressure. Find out here how healthy is your relationship and how to help it recover if it's under the weather..

1. Too healthy for your own good?
Couple that never argue may be setting themselves up for a fall. One of the key ways in which relationships grow is by partners learning to reconcile their differences.

Take Action-Don't be afraid to be your own person. Being loved-up is fantastic, but it can make you very self-absorbed. It can also end up costing you if you let it change things in terms of your other relationships, your work of your health.

2. A clean bill of health
Being a stable relationship means you have a haven, regardless of the problems the outside world decides to throw at you. Being in a relationship that offers mutual support will boost your confidence and well-being. This might help to explain why people who've been happily married for years tend to live longer.

Take Action-Keep up the good work! But remember, if you've not being together for long, you may still be experiencing the 'high' of falling in love. Once normality sets in, you may find you have to work harder to keep the spark alive. Surprise dinners or sending sexy text messages will help.

3. Looking a bit peaky
A so-so relationship can be even worst for your health than a bad one. Being in a constant state of uncertainty about whether to continue your relationship can cause feelings of guilt, anxiety, insecurity and raise your blood pressure. This is often when people have affairs.

Take Action-Take this as an opportunity to rediscover all the reasons you got together. Try to rekindle feelings of intimacy. People have 'love nerves' throughout the body, which send strong feelings of contentment to the brain when stroked. So indulge in some massage and make quality 'we' time.

4.Call 999!
Studies show that illness rates are much higher for people in an unsatisfactory relationship. Women tend to take on the role of carers in a relationship. This can mean juggling a career with household tasks, resulting stress, sleep deprivation and depression.

Take Action-It's make -or-break time and you have to decide if the relationship is worth saving. If you've invested a lot of time in it and children are involved, try to work together to see if the relationship can be improved. This may mean seeking professional help.


Love, Lust or just a crush?

Now this is one tricky question and the answer is not always crystal-clear. But fear not, here are guide on how to separate real love from false signs:

Lust is the simplest to identify. It's purely based on physical attraction. You're not fussed by his awful dress sense cos all you want to do is rip his clothes off. What's wrong with you? Blame it on the overproduction of the sex hormones, testosterone and estrogen.

Crush is that teeny-bopper feeling you get that probably comes from a more physical than emotion place. It can turn into love or fade away. Sometimes a mild crush turns almost obsessive with what's called "intrusive thinking", a toxic feeling of longing where your Facebook stalk him as if he were the oxygen you need to breathe.

Love is when you're past the crush and lust stage. You like him even after he has done something annoying, you imagine a future with him and you feel loyal to him. Chemicals involved with this feeling are oxytoxin and vasopressin. According to researchers at University of Calofornia, oxytoxin is associated with the ability to maintain healthy interpersonal relationships and healthy psychological boundaries with others. Vasopressin, on the other hand, is a hormaone that promotes feelings of bonding and connection, which is a possible explanation of why lusty love fades as attachment grows within the couple.


Managing your money can be a breeze

Expert tips to help you feel secure and money-confident about your future.

Are you debts mounting each month? Are you finding it harder to juggle the bills? Do you find yourself relying on cash advances on your credit cards to get you through till pay day?

Fretting over unpaid bills is a terrible energy-sapper. Money worries hang over your head, undermining your self-confidence and sense of security. Things usually aren't as bad as they seem and the worst thing any woman can do is accept the situation and continue living hand-to-mouth, day-to-day.

Every woman, regardless of age or income, has the potential to be financially secure and enjoy the self-confidence and personal power that comes with it. It is not a matter of earning higher wages, but of working smarter with what you've got.

Tips suggestion during a credit crunch:

If it looks like there is no way out of the maze of bills, stay calm. After all, it's just money. Many people and businesses face a credit squeeze at some stage and most work their way out of it. The key is to have a plan - and to follow it.

Work out if your difficulties are short-term or long-term problems, such as illness, loss of job or even bankruptcy. If it is a major crisis, you may need professional help. Seek advice from an accountant or bank officer immediately.

Do your best to protect your credit rating. A downgrade could jeopardise your future chances of obtaining a loan.

When cash is tight, prioritise which bills to pay first. Check which unpaid bills are likely to affect your credit rating. For example, a landlord may allow you to pay the rent a week late, but a default on the electricity bill will put you in darkness - and leave a black mark on your record.

Until you work out your way out of debt, you need to spend wisely. Put off buying clothing or household items until you are on firmer financial footing. Work out how much you can afford to put aside each week towards paying off your debts, then work out how long it will take until you are debt-free. Now you have a personal goal to work for - that marvellous day when you won't owe anyone anything.

Financial fitness takes discipline but don't impose too strict a budget on yourself. Chances are you won't be able to stick to it and will end up depressed.

Just $40 a week could get you started on building a fat nest egg for the future. The best way to begin a plan is by learning how investments work. This bring the knowledge and confidence you need to win. Many financial planning firms run seminars that are useful starting point.

Are You Depressed or Just Having A Bad Day?

You've been shopping, you've eaten a ton of chocolate, had a bubble bath and you still feel awful. Who should you call: a friend or a shrink?

You leave your house and as soon as you hit the highway, you're stuck in a massive traffic jam. When you finally get to the office, you can't find a parking lot. You're really late for work now.

It starts to rain. You decide to make a run for it from car to the office, but your best shoe (and the rest of you) get drenched in the process.

To make matters worse, you had a big argument with your husband last night and now you're just teary, mopey and into chocolate. You want to run home, call your mum, cry and kick a cushion. This is a bad day, but with any luck tomorrow will be better.

But when you're suffering from depression you can't be bothered to worry about being late - what's the point? And the rain drenched you. So what? Discomfort just adds to the agonising numbness. If you go home, you'll lie under the duvet for hours, alone, staring into space, fantasizing about whether it would be easier to just end it all. This is depression, and it probably won't be any better tomorrow.

We all get down from time to time. There is, however, a significant difference between a bad run of things and depression. So how can you tell if you're about to become a statistic (1 in 4 women become depressed each year)?

OK, so you may not be depressed, but you have thought about leaving everything behind and emigrating to Timbuktu, because anywhere's got to be better than where you're at. What's the answer? The obvious first stop is family, friends - or anyone prepared to listen, empathise and tell you when it's time to stop feeling sorry for yourself.

The second option is to undertake a little mental reorganisation.

If you suspect you are really suffering from depression, there's no need to panic. A bout of debilitating despair is a signal that something in your life isn't working. Whether it's your health, lifestyle, thinking, or the way you deal with your feelings, it's an opportunity to put it right. The condition is better understood now than ever before.